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What about when your "message Submitted by Nils on April 25, - pm. Post Comment Your name. E-mail The content of this field is kept private and will not be shown publicly. Find the source of the misunderstanding and correct it. It could be a word, a sentence, or even just a bit of body language that was used. The room might feel lighter, or the other person all of a sudden lightens up, or breathes a sigh. There are lots of positive indicators that an happen. Check that understanding has been reached and the emotions dealt with. When a misunderstanding occurs, there is often emotion involved.
The severity of the emotion will be dependant upon the topic, and who is involved. I felt angry that I was misunderstood. I thought he knew me better than that. After more writing, I realized that my feelings of anger and not wanting to be misunderstood were based in fear. I felt afraid that I was perceived as not smart enough, rational enough or politically informed enough.
As you know feeding the fear monster only makes it bigger. Trying to explain the issue might deal with this situation, but then what? Do I need to do the same thing every time I feel misunderstood? After reflecting on my fears, I realized that—to me—being understood means being appreciated or at least accepted. Validation is another elusive goal that the more you seek it, the less you feel it.
The one I had squeezed against the phone, which was squeezed against my sore shoulder, becuase I was using both hands to keep Ray's point in his pants. But many things can intervene to prevent the intended message from being received accurately. Beware of segregation, regionalism, individualism, discrimination, stereotyping, destructive criticism, false accusations, biased wrong assumptions, prejudice, senseless comparison and unwanted competition because life is much more meaningful to live for where there is unity and harmony. Growth Knudge. All new information we learn is compared with the knowledge we already have. Which brings us to the quote above. The room might feel lighter, or the other person all of a sudden lightens up, or breathes a sigh.
I also realized that my feelings about being misunderstood came from wanting to control the outcome of the discussion as it related to me. I expected my friend to understand my words the way I conveyed them and not the way he perceived them. Wanting to control the outcome is a recipe for pain.
After processing my findings above, I came up with the following pointers. I hope you find them beneficial. You always have the right to express your opinion and discuss an issue further. But only if it serves a purpose and helps you move forward. You also have the right not to engage and not respond at all.
Your opinions are not who you are. They are the position you hold at this moment, which may change subsequently.
The newspapers and tabloids thrive on misquoting and manipulating words. There is nothing you can do about it.
You can waste all the time in the world trying to understand why someone misconstrued what you said. In all likelihood, what you expressed triggered a defensive response in them. It has nothing to do with you.